Description : You asked Fluther for advice, got it, and rejected it. So did the advice help or not?
Last Answer : I rejected the advice at first, and it almost bit me on the ass. I accepted it eventually, but it was close. You know what I'm referring to. I think almost all the time I've got great advice and a ... my mind. That's been one of the best things I've found on fluther. (And some really super jellies.)
Description : How many chances would you give to someone before labelling them based on their behavior?
Last Answer : answer:I give a person two chances. If they prove unreliable or difficult through their behavior, I set boundaries for any future encounters. If they continue to be a problem, I limit contact to polite ... formative years enabled me to be good at taking care of myself. I matured after I grew up.
Description : If you have been wronged by someone; does it make you feel better once you get them back?
Last Answer : Personally, I would have to say “No.” Too much energy directed in the wrong direction.
Description : When someone looks too thin do you tell them?
Last Answer : answer:I don't, because I figure they know. I've been there myself and people told me I was too skinny all the time. I was completely aware of it. I was sick and had no control over the weight loss. ... that's it. If they do have anorexia, it's actually an ego boost to hear that they look too thin.
Description : Is talking about your pain or feelings online the same as talking about them to someone in real life? Why might the internet replace talking in person or why not?
Last Answer : Not the same, but it still helps.
Description : When in a situation with someone you dislike, how do you maintain your objectivity when your decision impacts them?
Last Answer : Funny that you should ask me that. This has come up recently for me twice. One I formally disqualified myself, and gave the honest reason that I wasn't sure of my objectivity. The second time I told the ... That time I made a decision which has yet to bear fruit, but I think I made the right call.
Description : What causes a person to smile and nod when someone insults them?
Last Answer : Uhhhmmm, do you have a bow and arrow?
Description : What causes a person to politely disagree with everything someone says to them?
Last Answer : I’m sorry, I don’t think that anybody DOES politely disagree with what is said to them.
Description : How do you know when you have helped someone too much, either making them too dependant or hurting yourself?
Last Answer : Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime. Chinese Proverb.
Description : What positive changes have you made during the pandemic and will you keep them in the After Time?
Last Answer : My outrigger canoe club and canoe races shut down last year. So my wife and I started paddling our two man canoe a lot more. We're a good team. She steers in the back and I control the outrigger and ... 16 sailing last summer and fall. I plan on continuing that for as long as I can. Such a blast!
Description : Is it still considered "invalidation" of a person's feelings if you tell or assure them not to be afraid, to not worry, or not be embarrassed?
Last Answer : Well, stated as such, at the very least is unhelpful. Instead of a statement, a question would be more compassionate, and possibly helpful. “Is there some way we can make this less frightening/embarrassing/upsetting? I’m on your side, does that help?”
Description : Why is it that I have such intelligent conversations with myself in my head that actually make sense but am never able to say them out loud?
Last Answer : I'm not in your head to be able to comment with actual knowledge of your case, but a few things come to mind. 1) The mind has incredible capacity to do huge amounts of complex parallel processing with ... by the time you got them into words). 5) Probably other things. :-) 6) Welcome to Fluther!
Description : Is it cognitive dissonance to want to be a bilionare and at the same time knock them down for being greedy?
Last Answer : Examples, please; otherwise you are proposing a contradiction.
Description : Are you a good parent if you provide for your child's needs and do not abuse them physically, yet fail to provide emotional support?
Last Answer : Yes.
Description : What causes unwanted negative thoughts and how to stop them?
Last Answer : I really don’t think that is unusual. It is simply empathy where we put ourselves in the situation of others and feel what they feel. These aren’t negative thoughts unless you start to obsess about them. That wouldn’t be healthy.
Description : When we are very reactive to certain people, does it say more about us or them?
Last Answer : I agree, the deeper the wound the harder to recover, if at all. When we have these issues, obviously you have to look at yourself. We must have self esteem and insecurity issues to let these people hurt ... seem to be insensitive souls with no love in their hearts. I don't want to be like that.
Description : Is there a psychological diagnosis for the people who imagine that airline safety rules and regulations should not apply to them?
Last Answer : That woman & those like her should be strip searched so as to remove the giant bug from their arses.
Description : Have adults who speak in very childish voices had something traumatic happen to them in their childhood ?
Last Answer : Um ...... yeah? It's possible. It could totally be a way in which more aggravated dissociative states present themselves (as could all voices - like, gruff and deep and male on a teeny, high ... various vernacular (eg baby talk, LOLspeak) than a soft voice, though they could easily combine the two.
Description : What are some criteria by which you decide who/what you would like to become? Can you trace the influences upon them?
Last Answer : I don’t decide, I just become whatever it is that I become.
Description : Collective memory question: how soon do we forgive... (insert your celebrity here, and then add the time it takes, in your opinion, to forgive them).
Last Answer : answer:Not sure I’m doing this right, but here goes…. Lionel Richie. His discography. I say, we should forgive him in 2048.
Description : How do professionals (e.g. teachers) deal with children that have developed a crush on them?
Last Answer : Sometimes they bang them.
Description : Should there be intensive background checks for surrogate mothers or for women prior to allowing them access to artificial insemination?
Last Answer : No – it’s her God-given right to procreate. Being a surrogate for another family is different, and all the reputable companies do extensive background checks on their surrogates even though it isn’t always required by law.
Description : Parents: do you prefer one child over another, or do you actually "love them all equally"?
Last Answer : I have four kids, and therefore four differing relationships, but i wouldn’t know how to quantify the love I feel for all of them, nor could I rank them in any sort of hierarchy.
Description : Do you think there is some innate feature of a person that can predispose them to certain belief patterns?
Last Answer : if intelligence derives at least partly from genes, which I think it does, then yeah. Leary with his Eight Circuits model, Ken Wilber and his integral theory and the theory of Spiral Dynamics (which Wilber ... eventually adopts. (you can't adopt a belief if you can't understand it, for starters.)
Description : Do Anxiety and Panic Disorders (specifcally Depersonalization) have genetic roots to them?
Last Answer : (Keep in mind that you mean “its genetic roots.” It’s = it is.)
Description : I'm curious about binaural beats. Do you have any experience with them, and, if so, what do you think?
Last Answer : There is an app in the app store, and it’s free! I’m quite surprised that they actually work!
Description : Would you use a rival's admission of psychological issues against them?
Last Answer : What do you think? @The_Compassionate_Heretic
Description : Family members who stress you out; how do you deal with them?
Last Answer : For my own mental and physical health, I will deal with it once I move out by having very limited contact and not really thinking about them. Harsh? Maybe. But that’s what I’m going to do.
Description : Could parents emphasis on the value of childhood innocence over their childs ever approaching adulthood be a problem for them and their children?
Last Answer : My approach to parenting was one of letting go gradually. Too often I see parents that are overprotective, and either the child rebels, or when they get some independence they are out of control. I have also ... day that is fast approaching when he leaves the nest (he's a High School Senior now).
Description : Do people that have suffered a lot seek out situations that will cause them to suffer again or even attract them?
Last Answer : I think it’s something more in their personality than anything else. I mean I think most people have undergone a lot more suffering than they would let on, but it seems only some people seem attracted to it.
Description : If you have a list of things that need to be done, do you tend to tackle the big (perhaps, more difficult) ones first and get them out of the way or do you start with simple (smaller) tasks/goals?
Last Answer : I had a boss once who was fond of saying “do first what you dread most.” That is the method I always try to use.
Description : Are cigarettes really as addictive as some people make them out to be?
Last Answer : OOOOOOOOH YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Description : If I write a story about reviving zombies, and I asked for names from someone, and I use that someone's name should I credit them?
Last Answer : Yeah, would be nice to acknowledge them. Depends also what you both have agreed on her bringing in the name. Will she get royalties, or a one off amount, or ‘just’ the honor.
Description : A recruitment agency (X) called me, requiring me for a job in company (Y). I asked them (X) to make someone from (Y) to call me (X) told me that HR of (Y) will call me. No one in (Y) called me for a month. Can I Contact HR (Y) directly?
Last Answer : You can call the company's HR to ask if they have any open positions and where to send a resume or fill out an application. But you can't call them about what the recruiter was talking about. The company may ... about. And if you call them about it, it puts them on the spot and they won't like that.
Description : If someone of a different faith/religious beliefs asked you to pray with them, what would you do?
Last Answer : answer:It happens all the time at weddings and funerals and somebody says Let us pray In such circumstances, I bow my head and maintain a respectful silence. I do not, however, pray. If a total ... atheist scum, I would ignore it. What else would I do? Beat them up? They are probably crazy.
Description : Have you ever seen someone looking at you or people you were with and asked them what they were looking at?
Last Answer : answer:A much better approach would be “sir, do I know you?. You keep starring our way and maybe we know each other”. This approach is much safer than your suggestion. The other person immediately goes on the defense and then look out.
Description : Is someone asked for help with eating better, what questions would you ask them?
Last Answer : If you haven’t kept a food diary, will you for a week? Then I can work with your habits and choices.
Description : If someone asked you how they could live a happier life, what advice would you give them?
Last Answer : Participate: as much and as often as possible.
Description : One day, a King asked his advisers, 'What should I do if someone touches my mustache ( mustaches are a sign of power)?' The first adviser said, 'He should get his hair cut off and be hung ... sweets.' This shocked the advisers and the King. Why would the third adviser suggest such and idea? -Riddles
Last Answer : Since mustaches are a sign of power, the only ones daring enough to touch someone's mustache, especially the King's, would be a child.
Description : How does someone like the people in this picture, possibly believe that they are a "patriot"?
Last Answer : This is one of those cases where I am purely grateful not to understand it because to understand it I would have to be able to think like them. I just wish that what they're playing at and toying ... baby alligator in the bathtub isn't going to grow up. They should only get eaten in their sleep.
Description : To what extent can someone be blamed for someone else's suicide?
Last Answer : Coercion and bullying are the two main sources of third-party driven suicide - they can be related. Ultimately, though, the suicidee makes the decision based on his/her own feelings. I don't ... blame' - although you can't stop people from making assumptions and drawing conclusions for themselves.
Description : Why wouldn't someone share his alcoholism and depression?
Last Answer : Shame. Privacy. He didn’t want your concern or sympathy. He was under no obligation to do so. Private is private.
Description : What do you do If you meet someone who Is arguing with themselves?
Last Answer : As a layman, I suggest you leave them alone. If you must talk to them, make sure they understand you do not share their experience of who they are talking to. Ask them bluntly who they’re talking to.
Description : Can someone please explain what it means to have a SEM=3?
Last Answer : This kind of feels like a homework question. Any how… there’s a 68% chance that the true score the child would have on the test is between 67 and 73.
Description : Is it possible for someone to have a grasp on Psychology and Sociology without doing coursework?
Last Answer : Welcome to Fluther. Of course this is possible. How else would the courses have been developed in the first place, otherwise – Divine Revelation?
Description : What makes someone a "showboat"?
Last Answer : I think of a showboat as an attention seeker. But I can't see that would be a reason to fire someone unless in a field that doesn't allow for showboating. An example would be a dance ... and the others are the backup dancers and one of the backup dancers keeps trying to get all the attention.
Description : Have you ever known someone who did not know or comprehend something which you consider pretty BASIC and FUNDAMENTAL?
Last Answer : answer:By the way, the question itself isn’t currently showing for some stupid reason. Before you say “what is the question”—what I asked (and not showing) was: : Have you ever known someone who did not know or comprehend something which you consider pretty BASIC and FUNDAMENTAL?
Description : (Bluntly speaking) How do you shut up someone who rambles?
Last Answer : Just say your tired and you need to go to bed. It’s the middle of the night. Thank her for her support, but you think getting some sleep would help you feel better. End of conversation.
Description : What are some things you should never tease someone about?
Last Answer : Anything to do with looks is out of bounds for teasing. Criticism maybe, if one is close and they fail to care for them selves. But teasing, never.
Description : Is it an act of courage to let someone know how they make you feel?
Last Answer : I wouldn’t over analyze it. You’ve already made the confession and can’t take it back. It doesn’t matter whether anyone here thinks it was courageous or silly.