How do I emotionally deal with a large inheritance?

How do I emotionally deal with a large inheritance?
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answer:One: no, it’s not a bad idea to put it out here, especially under a pseudonym. Two, any big surprise or major change is going to be stressful, even if it’s positive. I’m sure it will take some time to process and decide on what you want to do with the money. You might just want to put it somewhere very safe for a time while you assimilate the feelings associated with the inheritance. You don’t need to make major changes in your lifestyle if you don’t want to. You might just decide to use it as a nest egg for the future. The point I’m trying to make is give yourself time and space to feel your feelings. But please don’t feel guilty; she obviously loved you and wanted you to have the money.
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