I'm so stuck. What do I do about helping myself emotionally?

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Every time you hear it in your head, out loud, firmly – disagree. Compliment yourself and concentrate on what you’re doing in the present. Your worth is not determined by those unfortunate enough to not recognize your unique and beautiful self. If you can train yourself to actively disagree and dismiss those thoughts as incorrect eventually, you won’t find yourself facing them nearly as often. In short: Fuck them. You’re amazing. :)

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