Why am I just a "friend?"?

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answer:How old are you? Do you have good hygiene and dress your best? Are you too nice? A mature, respectable woman doesn’t usually want an asshole, but being a pushover is no good either. When you like a girl, do you let her know? Also, not asking for naked pictures shouldn’t be a plus in your favor, it’s just a sign that your friends are asses.

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