How to deal with a hostile attitude from my father to my boyfriend?

How to deal with a hostile attitude from my father to my boyfriend?
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answer:While you may love your father his behavior is not healthy, nor conducive to continuing to grow in his relationship with you. This is not about your boyfriend or you, it is about his internal issues and, clearly, his own emotional baggage. I think you need to be very clear with your dad and let him know that his attitude is going to end up causing some serious problems in your relationship and that he might very wello end up putting you in a really bad position of having to choose your boyfrined or relationship over him. In other words, Daddy O needs to know he is well on the way to creating a self fulfilling prophecy, and if he really wants a good relationship with you in your adulthood he might want to consider some counseling to help him get over whatever his problem is in accepting you as an adult with a life and relationship.
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