answer:They posed different problems; my son (the older) was surly, sarcastic and broody. But as a first child he seemed constitutionally incapable of lying so always confessed, and did terrific things academically, dramatically and musically between his bouts of glumness. My daughter was seemingly much more open and outgoing but had an uncanny skill when it came to stretching the truth. She also did terrific things academically, athletically and dramatically. I had to ferret out her acts of chicanery. My step-sons behaved similary, my oldest being the same as my son, clomping around looking surly but telling the truth when asked, and my middle step-son was always hatching plots with my daughter. They acted like twins. My youngest step-son was the runt of the litter, academically challenged because of dyslexia; he turned to coke and booze as a teen-ager, primarily because he got lost in the shuffle of the older four. They were all almost the same age, and life was hectic.