answer:Of the three situations, I would have to say an absentee father would be my chosen, followed by a “paper” father, then an abusive one. I hope it’s clear why I would pick the abusive one as a last resort. To me, you don’t really miss what you never had. Parents can’t take a place of another parent, but I know my mother did a damn good job filling in the gaps. If I had someone there but I never felt like they cared or loved me as in a “paper dad” case, what good would it do to have them around?