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answer:Until she doesn’t acknowledge the problem you can’t do much except keep reminding her she needs to take care of herself too. She deserves to learn and it seems she wants to learn it the hard way. Eventually she won’t have any power to do all her things and she then will see you were right. [when it comes to that don’t tell her “I told you so”]. Try to keep her in a good mood or something. And there’s always the possibility she’s doing this because she’s trying to avoid a family problem. Might not be something wrong but she might misinterpret something the wrong way and try to keep herself occupied so she won’t have to deal with that.

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