answer:It was a joint effort but I was the main organiser and took the major creative role. I just asked my husband your question and he said left to him we would have probably ended up with a backyard bbq and **** for toasts. We did brainstorm different ideas and if I came up with something he really didn’t like, he had the right to veto. Our parents are all dead. It was a second wedding for me and first for him and any planning and expenses were down to us.