Delegation. During the planning stages of a wedding, everyone has their idea and what should or should not be done. Normally families are the worst. They want to tell you how to do it. This is the hardest part to keep calm and try to please everyone. Well, this won't happen because it is your wedding and you need to be happy on the big day. Here are a few ideas to help make the planning successful and in the end make both sides of the family happy. Invite your parents and his over for dinner to talk about the wedding. Make a list of what you'd like each of them to do to help out. Let them know this is your day and this is what you really want and it would be great if they could help you make your dream wedding come true. If your mother wants to make the food you should ask his mother if she has any ideas as to what they should serve. Put the two mom's together to make the menu. This way they are both happy and in the end, it all works out for you. You can do the same with the flowers and the cake. But make sure you let them know that you have the final say so on what the cake should look like. Normally the father's won't be that much of a problem. They might want to deal with the music, where the wedding will take place or maybe the photographer. But normally they are easy going and just worrying about how much it will cost and to not go over budget. This might be your biggest problem. Making sure your ideas fit within your parent's budget. So you might have to make a few changes if both parents say that is way too expensive. When you need help, ask. That is the best ways to stay calm. Ask one of your family members to help you out.