answer:“I realized I couldn’t be friends with someone I liked that much” There-in-lies the opportunity for self improvement. That my dear, is your problem. “We stopped talking for a bit ” Good to develop independence. “But then he started going out of his way to contact me” Realize above all else a valuable lesson in human nature… People want what they cannot have. And thats why he started calling after you had already “stopped talking for a bit”. My advice to you is to run as far away from this type of “friendship” as fast as you can, like a rat from a sinking ship. These cycles will continue. He’ll move closer, then reject. You’ll ignore him, then he’ll move closer, then reject. You’ll ignore him, then he’ll move closer, then reject… Immature males play these games with immature females. It never ends well, and worst case scenarios will find each of you using your power positions to control the other, rather than to promote a healthy independent self. Stop trying to find, or make someone into the right person. Instead, start trying to become the right person. Then when the right person comes along, he’ll recognize you as genuine rather than an immature co-dependant liability.