Roommate problems?

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answer:I feel for you, nothing worse than living with total slobs. It might be time to have a talk with the roomies and tell them, straight up, yes, confrontation that you will not tolerate their sloppy habits anymore and you are not their freaking daddy. You didn’t sign up to be a parent to a bunch or 5 year olds and that if they don’t start cleaning up after themselves and stop smoking things in the house that you are going to either report them or ask to be assigned new room mates. I’d tell them that the jigs up and shape up or ship out. Can you talk to your dorm or apartment manager and ask advice on what your options might be? I’d just tell them that they can be as pissed off as they want, just shows how immature they really are. Just tell them you are sick of their crappy conduct and cleaning up after them and are giving them one last chance to man up, no further warnings or discussion. First you have to have a solid backup plan because you must follow through with whatever you say or you lose all credibility crying wolf if you aren’t going to actually bite. haha Good luck!

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