Could you forgive someone if they have not apologised for a wrong they have done to you?

Could you forgive someone if they have not apologised for a wrong they have done to you?
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answer:I have forgiven many times without even an attempt at apology. Forgiveness is for me, as the anger and resentment that I was holding onto was hurting me – not the person who I felt had done me wrong. That said, it appears that your “friend” is still actively treating you in a way that you don’t appreciate or like. In this case, it’s the persons current and ongoing behavior that is causing you distress. Forgiveness in this relationship would be a perpetual affair, and it may be best to remove this toxic person from your life. Then, you can forgive if you find that you can. Note: I also have found the genuine forgiveness is a powerful thing. Trying to forgive by forcing it can just lead to more resentment and hurtful emotions. EDIT: Poor reading skills on my part. The “falling out” part likely means that you are no longer friends. Sorry.
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