How do you forgive yourself, especially when you know you've done something really awful?

How do you forgive yourself, especially when you know you've done something really awful?
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When you've hurt someone by your words or actions it is hard to forgive yourself for what you've done. Being mean or aggressive is not really human nature unless you are just this type of person. If you've asked this question it appears to me that you are not this type of person and you've done something that you regret and find it hard to accept and live with yourself right now. You are going to have to learn from this mistake and try to make it right now. This can be extremely hard if you've hurt a person really badly by your action. The only thing you can do to right this wrong is to speak with this person. Let them know why you've done what you've done. I hurt my younger brother one time so badly it was hard for him to forgive me because of what I did. He was extremely sick and the doctors were afraid if I had told him the truth about our grandmother he could have died. I had to do something horrible and lie to my brother so he had a better chance to live. In the end, I had a very hard time living with myself and my brother had even a harder time to forgive me for what I did. it isn't easy to hurt another person and in the end, this will stay with you forever. All you can do is learn from these errors you've made in life and not do them again. You still have to live with them, but if you try and fix them it does make it easier over time.
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