answer:Listen to your feelings and feel them to find the part of their source that comes from the past, which isn’t authentically about the present. In that way, you can bring attention to them separately, instead of having the weight of past upsets piled upon present circumstances. You may be right in many aspects in your thinking about the present – it is great to have a dishwasher, and it’s not fair that some people have many advantages that they didn’t work for, but strong recurring feelings and patterns of emotion are almost always really about the past, and when we recognize where they come from for us, we can develop a practice of separating those reactions from present details. It’s very helpful to acknowledge the past and heal its wounds, but it makes a huge difference if you can separate past from present. There are many practices that can help do this sort of thing. e.g. Meditation, focusing, intuitive sense, analysis.