Atheists: would you tell the spouse of a dying friend that there is no such thing as God or Heaven, when they take comfort in "knowing" where their spouse is "going"?

Atheists: would you tell the spouse of a dying friend that there is no such thing as God or Heaven, when they take comfort in "knowing" where their spouse is "going"?
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I’m not an aetheist, I’m an agnostic. There is absolutely no reason to suggest to a person in your friend’s situation that there is no God or heaven, or whatever it is they believe that gives them comfort while watching a loved one die. There either is or isn’t a God. But telling that person (because you believe one way or the other) doesn’t change whether there is a God or not. Better to err on the side of compassion in this type if situation. There are plenty of other venues and situations where a person can debate their beliefs about, or lack thereof, God.
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