Hi, I have a relationship problem, will you advise?

Hi. I've been with a friend with me for a year. But then I messed it up by telling him I was going out with a friend and I went with a guy I know from kindergarten. Despite all my promises that nothing was even a hug, he still doesn't believe me and reminds me whenever he can. When I introduced him to his family, everyone thought there would be no problem with him, but time turned out to be the opposite. Now he has recently started going to work, from which he is about to fire him because he does not go there. The management already has signed papers on his dismissal. All he has to do is not go there once and throw him out. Sometimes he doesn't go there because he has a cold, other times because he has a headache, then because his "belly" hurts, etc. He still blames me for something and doesn't leave me alone or go to a stupid shop for stupid rolls. When we fall asleep in the evening and he wants to solve something, I turn around to make it clear that I just don't want to sleep anymore and when I don't answer for a while he starts yelling at me and doing Hm Hm Hm and then shoving Hm hm hm. So the conversation is far from over. I said I'd break up with him if he fired him, but I'd like to sooner, but I don't want to hurt him. He's been through a lot and I'm afraid he'll cry and I'll change my mind. I know what you've been through and I also know that if I took him back, I wouldn't be happy at all, I just would worry about him, and I don't want to. I want to work normally and raise my two beautiful children. But unfortunately with him, it would probably turn out that I would jump around him and feed him, while he would be rolling at home and doing nothing. When I want to talk to someone, I can't, because I would automatically cheat on them right away, but that's not true. I'm not the type of girl who cheats. I had a boyfriend for 4.5 years and I haven't cheated on him in all that time, and he thinks I'll necessarily cheat on him in a year. Thank you to everyone who has read this novel and who will be able to give me reasonable advice because I really don't know what to do anymore. I'm only nice if I take 2x Magne B6 F a day
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There is no reasonable advice here. You have to reckon with the fact that the problems will increase over time. Personally, I would end it as soon as possible if there is still time.
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