My daughters attended racially diverse school, we live in a diverse neighborhood, have diverse friends, etc. I thought we were raising color blind kids, but when my youngest daughter was in middle school, she had a physical assault incident with a group of girls, and expressed views that identified the behavior with race. After talking with her off and on for a period of time, it came out that there was a segment of kids that tied their behavior to race. It took some discussion, but we were able to make her understand that the behavior was not tied to race, but to socioeconomic issues, that lots of kids live in neighborhoods where you had to be tough and mean to survive, but as families had better education and better jobs, that sort of tough, bully behavior went away. And then we made a point of finding examples of mean white girls, and talked about why anyone feels the need to be a bully. It does sort of rip your heart out, though.