The death of a loved one (family member or friend), did it change you at all (a permanent change)

The death of a loved one (family member or friend), did it change you at all (a permanent change)
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No.I miss them but it made me stronger. Life is too short,that’s for sure.Try to live it to it’s fullest because you never know what can take you out.
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