answer:I am so sorry to hear about your friend’s loss @Hawaii_Jake. I would send the card and include a personal letter. Perhaps, if this is something you can do for him, in a few month invite him over for a break? People are often swamped with support when something like this happens and then their friends get tied up with their own lives and that’s when it can be hardest. So perhaps if you can, invite him (and his wife?) to stay in a few months. When my dear friend lost her son, I also bought her a journal. Sometimes it is hard to talk about the maelstrom of emotions we are experiencing. I felt perhaps writing things down would help her. She said it did.