That kind of behaviour is what I have come expect from people I haven’t seen in a while. Both friends from school and relatives. Oh you have become so this and so that… I don’t think it will ever stop. My guess is that it is some kind of instinctive behaviour almost. If you have nothing to say to a person the easiest thing to say, because you have to say something, is to comment (and exaggerate) what you see. if you HAD had something of interest to tell the person, you would have talked to them during the last four, or ten or whatever years. And vice versa. Whenever I see someone I haven’t seen in a number of years, and that I’d rather not talk to, I try to avoid them all together, crossing the street or whatever. It’s when I get cornered or stuck in the same elevator that something has to be said and then this is the way it goes. I guess that the other party feels much the same. Here is a clip of how it might play out. And here’s what you secretly want it to play out.