answer:Go out into the woods, or someplace very private, and scream and yell and generally let it all out. Then sit down somewhere and cry. No, I am not kidding. Sometimes that is really the best approach. While I was in Vietnam, my best friend from college was killed there by a short round of American artillery. I was devastated. So I got somewhere I could be ( relatively ) alone and screamed it all out. I still miss him, but now I can remember him with fondness, not grief.