How do I deal with my narcissistic mother while living with her?

How do I deal with my narcissistic mother while living with her?
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I have a seriously dysfunctional family that I have had to find various ways of coping with. I have found good resources and helpful advice on this site: Outofthefog.net. I recommend checking it out. It’s anonymous and the people are kind.
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