How do you deal with someone awful that has to stay in your life?

How do you deal with someone awful that has to stay in your life?
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answer:First of all, welcome to ask-public! I’m not sure what to say – you are in a pickle and I feel for you. I’m divorced but my kids were grown up when it happened and some things are still very hard. The most practical suggestion I can give is for you to minimize as much as is practical your actual contact with your Ex. Nothing is as corrosive as being constantly put down. Is there anybody who can be there when he is picking or dropping your daughter off? If not alone, maybe a friend could be with you at least and that might decrease his bad behavior. If it is so toxic, maybe the court can appoint a guardian alt litem to help out in the transfers. Another thing I would suggest is that you communicate any decisions that need to be made or changes by text or e-mail. He is more likely to stay focused and not be insulting in that way if you minimize the verbal exchanges. Good luck and keep coming here for support as needed.
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