Why is sadness so unacceptable in divorce?

Why is sadness so unacceptable in divorce?
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Yes, to a large extent. Many of the folk on here know that my husband left me 18 months ago. It’s been a rocky road and I’ve felt all the feelings you express. Largely, a great amount of sorrow and grieving more than anger even though much is better about my new life. I did experience friends who thought I should be angrier than I was and others who thought I should be over loving him when I wasn’t. Some friends have been thoroughly present in their support and it is important to realize who is a good resource and who isn’t. Remember it is a real loss and you have every right to grieve for as long as you need to. I have found that the extreme pain is less than it was although there are still things that trigger the loneliness and sorrow. Feel free to pm me if you need to.
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