Thinking about my ex-girlfriend is simply killing me, need some help. Seriously.

Thinking about my ex-girlfriend is simply killing me, need some help. Seriously.
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I went through a similar thing a few years ago, it’s all about distracting yourself and changing the way you think about things, do some reading on cognitive-behavioural therapy, it helped me through a hard time
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