I’m lucky to have learned all the good, bad and ugly about those closest to me, it’s freed us all up to go forward with a great feeling of trust, focus and solid sense of where we stand with one another, less spinning of wheels. I do understand where you’re at though and I hope you find someone to answer that question for you. People have this drive to share only positive information, or angrily deny and restrict the past which I personally think is unfair.