answer:Are there others in the family who have to choose sides, as you do? If that’s the case, perhaps you could throw them a ‘reception’ with the people who are on your side of the family politics divide. You could pay to fly them to where you are for long weekend a few months after the wedding/honeymoon (to give them a refresher once real life starts to set back in), and set them up in a nice bridal suite and take them for a fancy dinner or something.