How do you handle a situation when a relative or family member is worrying about a possible serious illness?

How do you handle a situation when a relative or family member is worrying about a possible serious illness?
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answer:First off: Fingers crossed. Best of luck on Thursday!! Until then, don’t overthink this. If you want to be there for her, be there. Nothing wrong with saying, “I love you” one time too many. Chances are she’ll be worried until Thursday, no matter what you do. I’d try to spend time with her. Take your cues from her behaviour, and mirror her mood as best as you can. Remember that this is hell for you, too. You’re not supposed to be a therapist – you’re allowed and expected to be confused/sad/overwhelmed. [Hugs.]
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