How do you kill/confront cattiness and maintain your temper?

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I realized a long time ago, when people are pushing my buttons, they’re trying to get a rise out of me. So if I lose my cool, I’m letting them control my emotions. If I stay cool and calm, they usually lose it. But cattiness drives me nuts too.

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