answer:Man, I so sympathize. Ever since my third child was born (almost 16 years ago!), I’ve had a prolapsed bladder. If I have a prolonged cough or a bad coughing fit, I’m likely to pee. Sometimes laughing hard will do it, too. I freaking hate it! Doing Kegels never helped, and I did a lot of them. I’m 46, and when I had a hysterectomy about 7 years ago, they ‘tacked up’ my bladder while they were in there. That fixed the problem for a little while, but it didn’t last. The doctor said I should never lift anything over 20 pounds again, or my insides might fall out. For real. This actually happened to my aunt. There’s a thing called a pessary that might work, but I haven’t been too keen to try it. You wear it all the time, but have to remove it to have intercourse. I still go places, but I go to the bathroom often, trying to keep my bladder as empty as possible. When I know it’s likely to be a problem (when I’m sick with a cough), I wear pads. Blech.