You have to talk with yourself first. What would you rather do without, a life of sanity, contact with your daughter. If it were my situation, I would deal with it by telling her she was my daughter while I raised her. I gave her what she needed to face life as an adult. As an adult, she has become someone I do not care to know. I would then tell her she is not welcome to visit my home at any time, and make it clear I meant it. Like I said, you first have to decide what you want for yourself. If she wrecks your happiness, that is not a do over; you have sacrificed the time you get for living your life to someone who does not care about whether you enjoy your life.