I have trouble dealing with my uber-religious parents, advice please?

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Can you write her a letter about how you feel? Letters are sometimes better than trying to verbalize what you need to say, because the recipient has to hear you out without interrupting you. Also, you could ask your dad if your mom would rather you not come visit for *********. Explain it to him, and let him take it up with her. At the very least, perhaps he could help tone her down?

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