answer:I wish I knew, I feel the same way. In fact I am sitting here at 3.30am feeling miserable simply because of this. I wish I knew for sure that for example, my son knew how much I care. How much I love him. Words seem cheap. Also he is an hours drive away and I can’t drive there. Someone once told me, it’s not the proclamations, or big actions it’s the soft gentle rain, constant that changes things. Like consistently sending a little message, and just loving that person. Doing the things you say will do, being available to that person.