answer:Because it was obviously just “a gesture to replicate replacement”, but she knew (unless she’s very stupid) that her “replacement” was in no way a real replacement for what you had lost, and she probably also knew that you were too well-bred to call her on that P.O.S. “offer”. So she gets to fool herself that she has “done her duty” as a mother and as a friend – at your expense. You probably felt bad because your friend was exposed as a poor role model for her own daughter, a bad mother for not being able to discipline the child simply by saying “Don’t do that,” ... and a poor friend, all in one fun-filled afternoon.