answer:In the situation you describe here, the real issue is between your mother and your aunt. You and your cousin did not need to get involved, but it seems that your aunt did not handle the situation maturely and address her grievances directly with your mother. There are probably emotional issues between them that go back to before you and your cousin were born. Living with a large family is a large challenge, as there are so many different personalities under one roof. I responded to your other question about anger management, but the incident you describe here does not seem to be an anger management issue, and it is not your battle to fight. However, you may still want to look into the Al-Anon information about detaching yourself from other people’s behaviors and issues, and learning how to be personally accountable for your own emotions and how to place responsibility for other people’s problems with those people.